Should women feel insecure about being structurally larger than their boyfriend?

This comes up in lots of situations I’ve seen. Women feel guilty for being too tall, too wide, or too strong when set alongside their male partners.
Many I’ve heard seem rather insecure about their femininity, and feel as if the man is also questioning his masculine side of the relationship.

I’ve known women who turn down males knowing simple things like her hand is bigger than his, her thighs are wider when they sit, or that she can see above his head. This seemed mind boggling to me, but as a tall, wider, and stronger woman myself I began seeing the same insecurities. I would just like your opinion on why or why not you think that women should be allowed to be taller, bigger, or more muscular than their boyfriend.
And if you are a man, would you consider a girl who fits one or all of these categories?