My mother is asking me for money from my inheritance - how should I go about it?

Asked by NeedAdvicePlease (67) October 30th, 2021

Hi everyone,

I am going to try & articulate this as best as I can.

My father passed away last year and left me with a home that I sold and inheritance. I didn’t really know my father left me a home or that I had a trust fund or that there was a trust. All this is new to me- death ( I have never experienced losing someone close to me before ), inheriting a large amount of money, or owning a property.

I want to clarify to everyone that I do love my mother very much, although we have a stained relationship.

The day my father died my mother was asking me for money.

Now that I sold my house, my mom is asking me for money every single day.

About my mom:

She is 66 years old, healthy, married, and owns a 2 story home. She also has a tenant.

About me:

Female, single, age- 31. Unmarried but I want to get married and have a family someday. I don’t own a house- I’d like to be a homeowner someday. I want to travel the world and make my father proud and also learn to invest wisely. I want to have a family someday, this is my dream in life… I hope someday I can fulfill this dream but I am unsure.

Like I said, I love my mother very much, but the way she is going about this feels WRONG. I feel extremely hurt about the whole thing. My father left me in his will, not my mother.

My father helped my mom buy a house, paid child support, and took care of me/us when I was growing up. When I was a teenager I was a bit rebellious (as most teenagers are) & my mom kicked me out of the home when I was 17.

I had no money, cell phone, she called the cops and they even told me “Good luck”. I had to stay with friends then I lived in a homeless shelter for youth. I got a job around age 18/19 and started working at a mall. My father helped me with rent here and there, or if I was struggling and needed gas money or an oil change, etc.

I never moved back in with my mother.

I don’t have any of my belongings in the home where I grew up which I thought was strange because when I’d visit my friend’s houses their parents always kept their rooms growing up…..

My mother kicked me out, and rented out room that I grew up in :’(

I’m a big girl, and I do not hate my mother, it just feels wrong.

If I am being selfish can you guys let me know?

My mom asked first for 40K, then it went down to 15K, then it went down to $3600 which she has been HOUNDING me for every single day.

Should I just write my mother a check and tell her to enjoy the money?

Thank you everyone.