Surprise pregnancy?

Oh, I need some advice.

I’m 28 yrs old and am about 7 weeks pregnant. I have the most wonderful child (age 8) from a previous marriage. My boyfriend and I have had an off and on relationship for the last 3+ years and here we are. Off and on, not because we fight or anything like that. But rather he has committment issues and is very close to his family that does not approve of me whatsoever. I hear myself, and relize how silly it sounds, but we do have a very healthy and loving relationship when he’s not being wishy washy. Again, yes I hear myself.

Anyway. He’s 30, very financially secure, loves my daughter to pieces and loves me dearly. But here we are. I’m embarressed to admit that we’ve already ended two pregnancies in our first year dating- back to back. Those were the most horrific experiences of my life and I just can’t do it again.

Problem is, he doesn’t want to go forward. He’s terrified. His parents hate me, I still have two years off school left (taken longer because I had my daughter so young)and in general just isn’t ready. He has strong family values and feels that since we’re not already married, own a home, and so forth, an abortion is justified. I just don’t agree. I really don’t think I can terminate another one. And adoption is not an option for me.

The boyfriend has made it very clear that this “will ruin his life/will make us irresponsible losers/will make him unhappy forever/etc…” It goes on and on. He’s been more than harsh. However, he has stated that he will be there to raise and support the child, insisting that we have to elope as having a child out of wedlock is not an option.

I’m fairly certain that these feeling will pass. His family will get over their issues and we’ll all live happily ever after. It’ll happen, right? I don’t know.

So there is is. Advice please??? I don’t feel that I could live with myself if I terminate, but how do I live with someone I love being so unhappy?