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I have a good friend who is interested in giving 'us' a shot and would like to date. She has showed me/told me how she feels, but, the romantic feelings have not been reciprocated on my part...yet. We're compatible in so many ways. Should I give it a chance?

Asked by Jude (32198points) March 7th, 2009

I’ve been good friends with this girl for about a year (want to clarify that we’re both girls). The more time we spend together, the closer I feel towards her. I do care about her, but, for me, for now, it’s strictly friendship. I was in a relationship for a good part of the year, and even though my friend had ‘feelings for me’ she respected the fact that I was in the relationship and didn’t interfere or make things awkward/difficult for her and I. Since I have broken up with my girlfriend, my friend has again made it known that she is interested and is hoping that we could give it a shot. The thing is, I care for her, love hanging out with her, we’re so compatible and we click in so many ways, but, at this point, other than caring for her on a platonic level; I don’t have any feelings for her. I’m not drawn to her romantically at this point.

Do you think that I should give it a shot (go out on a few dates) and see what happens? The hard part is, she has already said that she is ‘in love’ (at first, it was drunken declarations of love (haha), but, has since admitted the to fact whilst sober), and I’m worried that if it doesn’t for work me, that I will end up hurting her.

What should I do?

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