Keeping "secrets", whether it be for example, being closeted, or not telling people that you cheated in a relationship; how does keeping secrets shape who you are, what you think and how you behave?

For me, I was afraid to let family know that I was gay out of fear that they would disown my ass. I carried that ‘secret’ for a good 25 years. Also, I kept the fact that I was molested a secret, as well (carried that one for about 30 years). I still have a hard time feeling comfortable when talking to people about my sexuality (usually anyone over the age of 50). I find that because I carried around these secrets for so damn long, that sometimes I am afraid to open up and just be myself.

Care to share your thoughts/feelings?