What are your views on control in romantic relationships/marriages?

1. Is it important to you that both of you have the same amount of control when it comes to decisions

2. Is it important to you that you control some aspects of your parenting/household/finances more than your partner

3. Do you not actually care to be in control and like when your partner takes control

4. Or is control not something you think about

To me, we have to share information with each other always, we have to make decisions together, especially affecting our children or future…I don’t mind, though, when he takes control of finances as I feel that he’s more knowledgeable and I don’t mind taking control of our kids’ educational trajectrories…

I know many couples where things are one sided…‘oh she’s the mother, she parents’...‘he brings money, he can spend it’...and what about sex? I want us both to control when and how that happens, instead of just relying on him or myself