If you're married, or have been married, is (was) marriage all you thought it would be?

Did you have unrealistic expectations? Did you not have expectations for what marriage ‘should be’? Were your expectations, if any, met or not? Were they exceeded or was your marriage something else?

The first time I got married, I had no expectations or I can’t remember having expectations…I left him…The second time I got married, my standards were MUCH higher, I had all kinds of expectations – there were surprises after we got married that I thought should not have been there, but we’ve worked through these issues…though my expectations for how we should be remain the same