How do I control my temper better?

I find that sometimes when i’m really angry, i can’t control my anger. I’ll be really grumpy, I don’t want to be mean to people just because of my mood…

Also, I find that my brother is the most annoying little brat ever, i swear if i didn’t have one, i’d probably be angry far less. There is a 5 year distance between me and him, we usually get along, but when we don’t, i can’t help but yell at him. He will continue to talk back, such as just now, i told him not to do something, but he purposely did it, and then we argued for about 10 minutes straight, i ended up blowing up the house with my yelling. I know this sounds bad, i want to stop it, only my brother is the one who can make me do that. We live in a house, and was raised to listen to the elder sibling, my brother is instructed to listen to me as well since i’m the most responsible besides my mother. Welll anyways, my brother likes to get people fed up, he will purposely do things just to annoy me, i know that very well, but when the time comes, i can’t control how i act towards him. I don’t do this often, but i don’t want to EVER blow up again, so… how do i control my temper? When i’m angry and want to blow up… what should i do to stop myself?

PS: after I blow up, 5 mins later we’re like best friends again… but still. my temper… i hate it. :(