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How should I deal with a man who is pursuing me after I've told him not to?"?

Asked by May2689 (1291points) July 19th, 2009

Hello! First of all, thanks for taking the time to answer my question. I have a problem… a few months ago I met this guy that started flirting with me but obviously nothing happened, since Im in a relationship and he was in one as well. Recently, he called me and asked me if I could meet him, and I said no. Then I ran into him at a party, and we started talking and basically he said that he wanted to go out with me, but I told him that I couldnt date him because I’m in love with my boyfriend! But still, he called me on Tuesday and then I left it perfectly clear that I love my boyfriend and that I dont want to go out with him, ever. Well, I got a text from him on Wednesday and earlier today! ( In the first one he asked me what I was doing, and on the second one he said that he was in town and that he wanted to see me). I only replied to the first one because since I dont have his number saved, I didnt know who it was. So I just replied ” who is this?” But then with the second message, things started looking a little fishy and I called the number ( from a private line of course, so he doesnt thing that I’m “calling him”) and surprise! His number!!
Now, I dont want to upsted him because I’ve seen this pattern before, with a stalker I had about a year ago. I’m terrified that the whole stalker thing is going to start all over again, and I know that if I say something to upsted this person, he is just going to loose it and will start bothering me. And I think that the answer is to tell him, nicely, to never call me again. But how do I do that? Have you ever been in this position before? Do you think this is a good idea or what should I do? The last thing I need right now is another stalker…
Thank you!

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