Does it bother you or do you judge people who do not hold their fork and knife properly?

My husband and I notice this all of the time. People holding their eating utensils with a death-grip fist instead of controlling their flatware with their forefinger. My husband will say, “the meat is already dead, why do they do that?” I have had friends who have complimented me on how I use my eating utensils, mostly because they don’t know how to use theirs correctly. They will chase peas around a plate rather than enlist their knife to help place food on their fork. There are many rules of etiquette that don’t matter in my opinion or that I regularly break, but this one kind of bothers me.

I actually learned how to use my fork and knife correctly rather late, I was 15 and my boyfriend pointed out to me that I was holding the utensils incorrectly. I wish my parents had showed me when I was younger, they both hold their fork and knife correclty, but never bothered to demonstrate it to me.