If you are against war but have family in the military do you ever find that you resent them for fighting in wars that you don't agree should be happening?

Have you ever discussed this with them and if so did that discussion get heated? Can you feel that “they are just doing their job” or do you find yourself thinking that they are encouraging war because, maybe, if no one was willing to fight then there would be no war? Maybe you are one of these that is completely against war but can still support the troupes? Or maybe, although you don’t like the war you feel that it is necessary? What are your thoughts and how do you feel about close friends or family that are serving?