Women, in a man's esteem, what balance between body and mind would you like?

God! Sometimes it’s so hard to distill a question down to a sentence that means anything.

I’ve heard a lot of women say they want to be liked for who they are, and not how they look. I’ve heard that really beautiful women can be very insecure because they believe men like them for their looks, but not for their minds or personalities. Still, men the world over compliment women about their looks, and women often respond positively to those compliments.

So which is more important to you? Would you prefer to be liked more for your body or more for your mind (assuming that it is generally a mix). What is your preferred ratio of body/mind liking in your suitor? 50/50? 25/75? What?

When I was growing up in early feminist days, and women were making a big fuss about being respected for other things besides their bodies, a lot of women seemed to get angry when complimented on their looks. They said they didn’t want to be treated like a piece of meat; like a sex object. I figured that women wanted to be liked for their minds, not their bodies, so that became my focus. I was never comfortable complimenting women on looks, and never did it, because I thought it was so clearly a strategy for getting laid that no woman would ever fall for it.

Now I understand that women do want their looks to be noticed. They really like compliments (which was hard for me to understand, because, at the time, compliments made me extremely uncomfortable). Some may even want to present themselves pretty much purely based on looks. Ok. Whatever floats your boat.

What’s the ideal ratio for you? What do you want to be liked for? What do you want men to be attracted to in you, and in what proportion? If you want to add other things to be liked for (personality, money, I don’t know), feel free to do so.