Why aren't you fixing your relationship issues?

That is…given that you have relationship issues…what is holding you back from addressing them? Is it time, co-dependance, fear of being alone, fear of conflict? Is it hard for you to communicate what you want, are you carrying baggage from past relationships?

So many people say they’re unhappy in their relationships – they tell their friends, anyone really but why aren’t they doing anything about whatever problem it is? The cliche and over-tired battle of the wives vs husbands continues on and on like a broken record (it doesn’t have to be wives or husbands, use partner, girlfriend, boyfriend) – when I got married, both times, people like my mother and her friends expected me to join into their club – the Club of Bitching Wives and I didn’t want to…I didn’t get married so that I can feel as part of something larger and whinier than myself…

If you’re not getting enough sex, love, affection…why aren’t you asking? Why haven’t you fixed issues in your relationship?