Do you consider yourself to be one of the 'nice guys' in terms of how you are in relationships? Can you give reasons why or why not?

Women often say, “Why can’t I find a ‘nice guy’?”, I have been guilty of this, but then I have had some seriously bad, abusive relationships and I have a pretty negative view of men and have had for a long time, but I’m dealing with this.

However, I’ve heard women say this phrase a lot, even when they haven’t necessarily experienced abuse as such. Anyway, I was just wondering whether any of you Fluther chaps think that you are one of the ‘nice guys’ and what would make you think that? Or even whether you think you are not a very nice guy in terms of being in a relationship and what your definition of one would be?

It is really an inquiry into our male and female perceptions and how they differ
NB: I’m not asking this question as a preamble to meet a guy or ask for advice on how to find a nice guy.