Questions about being a virgin?

Well I am rather embarrassed for asking this question and as I don’t have any real close family or parents to really sit and ask, I was thinking since the people here at fluther seem to be mature and fair I would ask you.

I am still a virgin, but at first I wanted to find a girl who was also a virgin to lose it too.But I started thinking maybe thats kind of wrong I don’t know?

I am not religious, I believe in god but I am not into the whole church scene and lets hold hands thing ya know? So I thought the sex after marriage thing would be well dumb…..

I have stuck to my guns and what I mean is I am not into partying much,drinking,smoking or whatever plus I have a fear that I may end up like my parents addicted to something since it runs in the family its just not my parents.

People tell me “don’t worry the right girl will come along just be yourself” Well I have done that, been single this past year now and it does not seem to be working its self out that way at all…...

Also I should say its not just about the sex I want a girl who I can relate too and is not into stupid shit, a mature girl…..At heart I am a romantic guy specially if its the right girl, my past gfs it was all about taking them out, and I even get all cheesy write music and poetry for them….what can I say I am who I am lol!

Anyways I don’t know I guess should not worry about but this being single and virgin thing on top of it is really boring and lonely to say the least…...I suppose even if she was not a virgin least knowing she is a clean,smart, mature girl would make me happy and that I like her…...

What do you suggest? Is my thinking bad here?

Thanks as always :)