Have you ever wasted a lot of money and time on a relationship, or have 'lost everything' because of your trust in someone?

If so, how do you cope with the hatred and regret of the past occurences? I got married and divorced in a year and a half to someone I knew for not even a year, yeah I know, dumb mistake. I let this woman literally run my life (make the majority of the decisions) simply because she was a ‘smooth talker’.

If I never got married, I would have so much money…..I had plans for all the money I was saving and now its all gone : ( I keep hearing the same broken record cliches like “you learned a lesson, you just have to move on now”. I was very lucky we didn’t have kids, I didn’t even owe any alimony(but the debt we incurred hurts, like ow lol, I’m paying it all off). I’m very happy my life is getting better after this setback, but its so hard to stop thinking about what I could have and what I would be doing now. It sucks.

How did you ever get out of this hole if you’ve been in it?