I am motivated most by comparing myself to peers. Is that wrong?

I just realized that a lot of the improvements I’ve made in my life have always been made to stay one step ahead of certain people. Especially people close to me. After coming to this realization, I feel like such a shitty person. I should do things for myself and not for others…

To give an example, I’ve had a goal to improve my social life but have been slacking as of late. I noticed my best friend suddenly making the same effort and now I am more motivated than ever. And I can’t even tell if it’s because I want to be better than her, or if I just got reminded that I haven’t taken any action for my goal.

I just feel wrong for feeling this way. I’m not normally a competitive person either. Should I be feeling this way?