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Should I have helped?

Asked by Ltryptophan (12091points) March 21st, 2010

There is a woman. She is among the top three most beautiful women I have ever seen. She checks out in my line at work. She is a single mother. She uses welfare to pay.

I attempt to treat her normally. She comes through my line and blushes bright red and does the school girl giggling thing you females do. This tells me that my attempts to treat her normal are transparent. No big deal.

So the other day she comes to the line behind me. I don’t care. But, it seems she cannot afford any of her groceries. She is pretty upset, not boohooing, but definitely uber frustrated. So I am faced with the dilemma. Should I buy her groceries for her since she is hard up, and ask her to pay me back? Since I normally would not do that, are my actions simply provoked by her looks and not founded in charity. I decided not to help. Although I harbored a suspicion that I could acknowledge in myself that I was not doing it for her looks regardless of how it might seem to anyone. Well, she stepped aside and gathered her thoughts or something, and then as she was walking out she walked up and gave me the sad lip. Like “my life sucks” and noone will be coming to my rescue.

At the time I was totally swamped. I could not stop my work and help. Before I could get someone to go catch her she was gone.

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