Why do girls hesitate to give you their AIM name, when they are already talking to you on a site full of personal information?

Some of us, more than will admit, use the internet for a bevy of tasks. One of them being, meeting new people and possibly dating.

There a hundreds of sites, free and pay, that can offer a menu of like minded attractive singles to choose from. Much like real dating, one of the first objectives with online dating is to get the person’s AIM name. It’s like getting a phone number (I still try for the number) on a blind date.

This brings me to my question. Often girls will withhold their AIM name from you until, “they get to know you better”. But does this line of thinking even make the remotest bit of sense? I get that it is a hold over of the old play hard to get phone number days, but women today give out their facebook friendship as if it was on fire; a site full of personal information, embarrassing photos and even, don’t look now! THEIR AIM NICKNAMES!!

Obviously they don’t give out their AIM because people are supposed to be discrete online, right? Well…

You can ascertain nothing from someone’s AIM nick. Most of the time it’s a random inside joke or a mix mash of words and symbols. There are no real names. No additional info. Just the nickname. AND more than not you met this person on a site that REQUIRES you to submit information about yourself.

So, why are girls so reluctant to give out their AIM when they already give out tons of personal information? Is this some power holding girl trick that makes men chase them? Is this all about the pursuit and creating a mystery, or whatever girls do to make men pursue them? I get that it is about the chase for some women and some men. I understand the appeal of that and I know once a person is readily able to talk to you at will, some of the spark and mystery is gone. But for my money, AIM is still a mysterious place where communication just happens to be more expedient.

I know someone is going to not read all of this post and just say girls don’t give out their aim because sometimes they just don’t want to talk to you. I get that but, that isn’t quite the situation I have in mind. I am talking about the women who might be interested in talking beyond email, but withhold aim anyway. What is the reasoning? What difference does it make?