What is important, to be aware of, when struggling with apparent conflicts in one’s religious beliefs?

I was looking over a question posed by Prolificus that has me wondering about things one needs to be aware of when faced with dissonance over clashing beliefs or interacting with someone in such a place.

Given I am someone who ponders ideas around Divinity and faith I often find myself wrestling with things that appear to be a paradox or in conflict with my currently held beliefs. I also ponder how to navigate this well.

While certainly this question holds room for expressing specific things that point to why certain beliefs are dissonant (Theism vs Atheism, for example) I am particularly curious about the “what” and the “how” of managing such dissonance, not the why of it’s happening.

For example, some Amish practice Rumspringa, here I don’t refer to the stereotypical shenanigans that are sometimes hyped in the media, I am referring to the underlying process an Amish youth faces when determining whether or not to stay a part of the culture they were raised in.

A more general example would be an adult who grows up believing certain things about sacred texts, proper religious practices, and specific theologies and as they meet with differing attitudes and understandings about belief (or lack of it) they may find themselves questioning things they once knew.

What sort of emotional and psychological things would be important for such individuals to be aware of and sensitive about? What would they want others to understand? How would they want people to respond them?

Maybe you can remember a time, in your own life or that of another person’s life, when you saw the pangs of reconciling or even eliminating beliefs. As you look upon those remembrances are there words of kindness or gentle insight that you would offer, not only to the one facing dissonance, but to those engaging with people facing dissonance?