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Should I acknowledge my half sister?
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May 5th, 2010
My parents divorced when I was 4 and mom remarried when I was 5. My mother has literally never mentioned my father, her marriage, or their divorce. The odd thing is that I continued to visit my grandparents (his parents, my favorite people in the entire universe) every summer and they never mentioned him either until my grandmother asked me in my 30’s if I hated her for not insisting that I get to see my father.
As a child, I waited for my ‘father’ to appear and whisk me away (my mother and I had a less than close relationship). Every birthday, every milestone – and then I stopped looking for him after high school graduation.
My grandparents are both dead now, and I have been approached by a half sister on Facebook. Clearly, I am a product of a repressed upbringing because I find the thought of meeting anyone from that side of the family uncomfortable and disturbing (yes, I still have that little girl’s resentment that her father never cared enough to come for her).
She’s contacted me twice now. Should I continue to ignore her, send her a polite rebuff? What would you do?
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