Do you think we are all fumbling our way through relationships?

It occurs to me that in my relationship I am really just flying by the seat of my pants. My ultimate goal of course is for it to be healthy and strong and my moves are usually based on my ideas of how to make that happen, but really there is no real science behind how I decide what to do. I just try to go with my gut and blend in results of past endeavors, But the truth is I have never really been exposed to a happy, healthy, strong relationship, much less been in one. I have no idea what that looks like or how to make it reality. Do you think most people are going at it from this perspective? Do you think most people have the whole “relationship” thing knocked?