How do you meet in the middle with your SO when you have different priorities?

I mean in how the relationship runs. My situation is like this, my bf seems to act like our relationship runs itself while I think put a lot of thought into it, trying to create some romance. He says he loves me more than anything but he doesn’t seem to want to find out what I need or if I tell him then he listens but keeps doing things his way. I’m starting to feel like I’m not a priority but something he attends to if he’s got enough energy or boredom left over from work and tv.