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Women: Have you ever had a good male friend...and when he gets involved with someone else, your friendship suffers?

Asked by DarlingRhadamanthus (11213 points ) September 29th, 2010

It’s happened to me so many times that I thought I would ask. Or have you been friends with your ex-husband and then he gets involved, and the new woman can’t deal with your presence in his life?

I have had a lot of male, platonic friends. I have two or three that I would consider to be as close as brothers. I grew up with brothers, so I am very comfortable with platonic, male, friendship. We chat on the phone every other day, get together often, cry and laugh on the phone, give advice to each other, go on holiday, just about everything.

I always know when one becomes involved…he just stops calling, becoming totally enmeshed in the relationship. It’s strange, because you usually think only women do this. It bothers me because I never, ever let my relationship take over my life with my male or female friends. Friends are forever. I still call, make time to see them and continue to include them in my life.

What was really hard was when two men I had really long-term relationships left…and we parted in good terms and stayed friends. Then, they get involved with Miss Super-Jealous and I am no longer allowed to ever talk to them. (I am not referring to these, specifically by the way, I am referring to the regular male friends, I have mostly.)

Any experiences?

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