I am too scared to go to go to the doctor, how can I reduce my anxiety?

I’ve been lightly spotting a day or two before my period (enough to wear a pad) which I read may mean I have a serious condition but I am more scared of going to the doctor, and especially a gynecologist than dying. I feel like I can’t breathe just thinking about it. I don’t want to be forced to be on birth control, to have emergency surgery, I don’t want my genitals touched, I can’t swallow pills, I gag or throw them up. I panic at doctors (I struggled hard against a doctor the last time an IV was attempted, I spit in the face of my orthodontist, I cried while watching a video on getting my wisdom teeth out, I’ve had to be gased at the dentist, I frequently want to run out of waiting rooms and only stay because my mom is my ride, etc).

(I am 22, a virgin, and yes I know I’m supposed to have normal visits but like I said, I am extremely doctor phobic).

I don’t know what to do.