Why do women who favor equality get so infuriated over women who tolerate or live by choice in a patriarchy?

There are certain cultures where the women acquiesce to the fact that the men are in charge and they prefer it that way. The Travelers in the UK, the Amish and Mennonite, and many living in the Middle East, etc, though not all women might like it in the Middle East, they at least tacitly accept it. I notice these women choosing to let the men be in charge just boils the blood and chaffs the hide of those women who believe women should be equal to men. It would be as if these women were attacking or trying to enslave those who live in societies that are more equal and less men dominated. If the arrangement of the men being in charge works for those women should other women be pissed off and try to take that from them?