What is NOT OK to wear to a funeral and why?

Was at a funeral yesterday. My husband’s 84 year old aunt died. The first time I saw someone wearing jeans to a wedding or a funeral it kind of gave me pause…but they’d worn a really nice shirt and shoes and took time to look nice so… meh.

Well, yesterday one of the relatives, a close relative, a 50+ year old man we’ll call John, showed up in worn out cargo-type jeans that looked like they hadn’t been washed or taken off in a week, a camouflage T-shirt with some John Deere ad on it, and black tennis shoes that looked like they had recently stepped in a mud puddle. He looked like he had just gotten off the tractor after working the fields. He did have on a decent KC Chiefs wind breaker, but it didn’t do much to cover up the T-shirt. He is not a poor person.

THAT took me aback.

When we got home we immediately changed from our “dress” clothes to comfy jeans and sweatshirts. Then we went to visit with John and his wife because we were thinking of buying a tractor from him. He had on the same old clothes as he had on at the funeral, and he and Rick went out and worked on the tractor we were thinking of buying, getting greasy and dirty and just having farmer fun. In the same clothes he wore to the funeral.

What do you guys think about this?