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How to talk to someone you like?

Asked by shinobu (7 points ) November 27th, 2012

The obvious; There’s this boy I really like. He’s pretty shy, and genuinely nice. I asked him the other day that he should text me, it’d be nice to talk. He gave me his # and we chatted for a bit today. I asked a friend of his if I have a chance with him, he says He doesn’t see why not, he doesn’t really have a type. How do I go about this? I really like this guy and I just want to talk to him and work my way up with out seeming overwhelmingly obvious.

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AshLeigh's avatar

If you’re not overwhelmingly obvious he might not realize you like him.
And if he doesn’t realize you like him, he may never ask you out.

Shippy's avatar

Just pretend in your mind, he is a friend like any other and chat.

zenvelo's avatar

Welcome to Fluther.

Now that you have broken the ice by texting with him, either walk up to him or text him to see about meeting him to eat lunch together. And then when you are together, as @AshLeigh said, just talk to him like he is your friend. Get to know him, and let him get to know you.

Until you get to know him, you won’t know if he even asks girls out. But there is nothing wrong about your starting things to get to know each other.

Good luck!

marinelife's avatar

You talk to him the same way you would talk to anyone. You ask him about himself and his interests and build from there.

wundayatta's avatar

Let me emphasize what @AshLeigh said. You must be overwhelmingly obvious with a boy.

As a former boy, I can tell you that I grew up believing not a single person liked me. Sure, plenty of girls talked to me. Who knows, maybe they even flirted with me. I couldn’t tell, because I didn’t know what flirting was.

I hear this over and over from other guys. Slowly, as we get older, we catch on when women are flirting. And now, at the age of 56, I can tell. But at 18? Fuggeddaboudit!

So you may think it is painfully embarrassing to make it explicit that you like someone, but if you don’t, you won’t have much of a chance, I’m afraid. And even if you do, you won’t have much of a chance, because even if a girl tells you they are interested, many guys will find it hard to believe, just because they don’t believe they are the kind of guy girls like.

kwoahh's avatar

When you talk to him, ask him about himself and about what’s going on in his life. Then conversation can easily build off of that. Also be yourself 100%.

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