How do I fix mine and my older brother's relationship?

Asked by RockerChick14 (951

) May 16th, 2013 from iPhone

My brother is four years older than me. When I was twelve my parents left me at home with him and his girlfriend(now ex) to make sure nothing was going on but he lied to me and told me they were talking about something important so they wanted to talk in private and i didn’t think anything of it because I didn’t think he would use me like that. She ended up finding out she was pregnant and she had an abortion which my brother sad and it hurt really bad that he used me like that and our relationship was like a friendship but after that it was strained. My parents got mad at me because I was supposed to watch them.

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How old are you now?
Talking to your brother about that event, and what happened after, is the best way to work out what happened to your relationship. If he’s ready to listen, be prepared to tell him how you feel about it, and what do you want now.

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I’m 16.

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That is an unreasonable amount of responsibility to have put on a 12-year-old girl from any standpoint.

Have your brother and parents ever acknowledged that?

You have every right to be enraged.

It seems, from earlier questions, that you and your family do not communicate well. Other than going to your school counsellor or a pastor or rabbi if you have a religious affiliation,or another family member, it is going to be tough.

Learning how to stand your ground with unsympathetic family members is a skill learned slowly, if at all. And for a teen-ager, it usually means having someone help you.

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