Could someone give me Information on helping someone detox from alcohol?
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May 31st, 2013
I have an old friend, now more of a facebook friend. Ever since I decided to expose my illness to my facebook friends as a way of coming out she has been texting me.
Today she started crazy texting me. Turns out she’s decided to dt outside of the hospital and she says I am one of her motivations for doing so. She asked me to text her or answer so we have been doing that all day she won’t tell me where she is or if any one is with her.
I haven’t told her this but if she did tell me I would send an ambulance.
She also said she didn’t want me to bring her anything or see her like this. So I have no idea where she is at. Or if anyone is with her or how bad she is. She sounds really garbled and erratic.
I also don’t know anything about detox. I have no idea from clinical aspect or from a personal level, being there for someone or what it feels like to go through or how long it will last. I have no idea what to say or talk about or distract her with. Also it is past 1 and I have to be up at the very latest by 6 and she’s only getting more frequent. I have stuff to do when I get off of work and sleep is something I need desperately though it is hard for me and I am almost always exhausted. So I need sleep. I am not thinking logically right now.
Any advice?
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There is no way of knowing how she will react to detox. Depending on how much she really drinks it could be very dangerous.
It could also be that she is one of those drama needy people who will suck you dry.
You can’t be responsible for her sobriety or how she handles it.
I would probably tell her to accept the help you are willing to connect her with or leave you alone. You need your sleep and if she is not willing to listen to you the consequences of her choices are in her, not you.
ok sounds good. thank you.
Detoxing unsupervised can be very dangerous. Her behaviour in witholding information about where she is or whether she’s alone seems manipulative. I think you need to tell her you can’t help her more than you have already and she needs professional help. She won’t tell you where she is and there is nothing you can do. Tell her you have to go to bed now or you’ll get sick yourself. Turn your phone off. Try to sleep.
She is not being fair to you. As others have said it can be dangerous, even deadly. Most likely she will be fine, but it is still a risk. Maybe suggest to her to call someone who can be there with her, or to call an abulance. Hopefully, if she gets through this and doesn’t drink in desperation, it will discourage her from ever drinking again. It doesn’t usually work that way the first time, but we can hope. Detach yourself if you can. You really can’t do more for her, and she has put you in a horrible position.
Thanks I should have known about the unhealthy manipulative quality. I mean she did use a bit a emotional black mail. I got confused because she seemed to be trying to make right decision.
Which I think is good. She did give in and drank. But I did get a few hours of sleep.
She sounds like a typical drunk, they are usually manipulative, etc. They are also excellent liars and attention seekers, could be just a ruse. But it is possible to die from trying to dry out without help. The DT’s are not pleasant. There isn’t much you can do though in your situation. You just have to remember the 3c’s, you didn’t cause it, you can’t cure it and you can’t control it. If you are religious, probably the best you can do is say a prayer that she really wants to dry out and she has the strength and determination to do it. How severe and the duration of withdrawal symptoms depends upon the depth of the disease in her body.
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