Would you say something?

A while ago, a friend of mine died…let’s call him Mo. Now, another friend plans to get Mo’s name tattooed on his arm. Trouble is, he’s gay. He’s one of my best friends, and as it is, I’m scared for him sometimes. Though we live in a place where homophobia is not openly accepted, it definitely exists.

I’m worried that a tattoo of another male’s name may make him a more obvious target. On the other hand, I want him to do whatever he has to do to get over Mo’s death. They’ve known each other for twelve years, and they were close.

I don’t know whether to say something. He might get angry, and it is his decision, of course. Any advice?

Please don’t take this the wrong way. I know I am, in a way, treating him a certain way because he is a guy. But I’m doing that because realistically, that’s how things are. I would be thrilled if things were less about gender.