If this was your daughter what would be your reaction?

(disclaimer) This is not anyone related to my family or families I know. Any details may be doctored or paraphrased to protect or disguise the stupid. Any time reference of the past is of no importance. Even if you do not have daughters tackle the question as if you did.

Your daughter begged you to go to a party of a friend, she swore it was legit. You checked it out and there was a party and adults would be in charge. However, several weeks down the road a loose friend in your neighborhood stops by and shows you video her son, who attended the party, had. There were young people from early teens to post graduate sophomore to freshman in college there. Many had obvious alcoholic drinks in their hands. In several shots girls were laying across the counter while young men of all ages sucked Jello shots from their bellybuttons; your daughter included. Other shots she was dancing groin to groin with different young men, one who was clutching her bum and hips to get a closer grind, all the while your daughter danced with a drinks in her hand. Your daughter was also in a segment where it appeared to be a lap dance competition.

You distinctly remember asking her when she got home about the party and if anything amiss happened and she said nothing unusual happened; when it apparently did.

The video was discovered by the friend (not a close or good friend) when she went to put socks in her son’s drawer. He was reminiscing with it and stepped out to the John figuring mom was busy downstairs and his brother was out of the house. He had the footage on pause and when his mother spied it she recognized some of the kids, your daughter included, then hit play to see what it was about. Then made him show her the whole file and contacted the parents of the teens she knew.

Seeing your daughter believed she ”got away with one” what would you do or your reaction be?

What would you say to a friend who daughter was discovered to have done it and the mother is devastated.

(Note: The party was suppose to be canceled because the parents had a family emergency to attend to; their daughter begged off going. She waited until 30 min after her parents were gone and started a text chain stating the party was going on anyhow; just without the parents there. Over the duration of the footage there appeared to be at least on passing of a bong, and two passing of a joint.)