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Can you guys help me stay strong?

Asked by Dutchess_III (46813points) March 7th, 2014

And I’d appreciate your thoughts on this situation.

Three years ago we bought a new SUV and gave our 1995 Suburban, which was paid off, to my daughter. However, we retained the title. I have pad the tags for it every year, and the insurance on it every month.

In October I talked my husband into signing the title over to her, but for a variety of reasons I never gave it to her.

About 2 months ago it developed problems with the fly wheel and wouldn’t start. She was thinking of selling it, and that was fine with me.

Recently she became engaged and prepared to move to another town. Her last official day at the apartments was Feb 28, although she actually, physically moved about 3 weeks before that.

I asked her what she was going to do about the truck. She said something about getting a U-Haul with a hitch and towing it to her new digs….but they didn’t.

So her lease was running out, the truck was just sitting in the parking lot. I was afraid the complex would impound it, so I paid to have it towed here to my house. I was kind of pissed at that point and decided since it WAS my truck and I had to do all the work to secure it I’d sell it and keep the money. If she’d taken care of it, I’d have allowed her to sell it and keep the money, but she didn’t.

Well, I found a buyer. We agreed to $750.00. I sent a text to my daughter. She called, wanted to know if my husband knew I’d gotten it sold. I said, yes, he was out there and did the selling. He even got the truck started and running (he’s a mechanic.)
My daughter said, “Well, if Rick knows it got sold I won’t get the money, will I.”
I said, “It’s my truck, I had it towed, we’re keeping the money.”

She got so PISSED. She yelled “Are you freaking kidding me? I’m the one who placed the ad (on facebook.) I’m the one who GOT it sold.”

Now she’s not talking to me. I am so damn frustrated. I’ve helped that girl so much, given her hundreds, if not thousands of dollars over the years when she was running short.

Our relationship certainly isn’t worth losing over $750 bucks, but it’s time for her to be completely self sufficient. I could also really use that money to pay the tags on our other vehicles, which is almost $900. :(

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