If you've been divorced, how did you live through the time you decided to divorce until it was finalized?

My husband and I are friends with this couple. The wife has recently stated that she wanted a divorce and has started sleeping in another bedroom. The husband doesn’t seem to want divorce, but he’s given up on trying to change her mind. They still live in the same house. I’m assuming it’s extremely awkward.

But I think she’s asking for a little more casualness than possible. She is mad that they don’t do family outings any more. She says her husband won’t hug her when she comes home from work and he doesn’t even want sex from her, even though she said he was free to ask for it until the papers were signed. She says that even after the divorce, she will let him come over for sex whenever he wants it. And she expects to have weekends of hanging out, watching movies and going on vacations together…

All I could think of was…WTF? That doesn’t sound like a divorce. If you want to do all that stuff with your spouse, why get divorced in the first place? She acts like he’s being a massive jerk because he’s all angry over the divorce.

But maybe I’m old fashioned or something. Maybe people have divorce situations like this these days. Do they?

What was your divorce like?