[Fluff time] Is it better to have no relatives because they all passed away or died in a tragedy or have live relatives that ignore you?

Disclaimer No, I have no such issue, so it is not about me.

If you have most or all of your family dies in a ferry accident, jet crash, fire etc. and you were the sole survivor, would that beat having live relatives but none wish to have nothing to do with you so you know your isolation is because of them and not merely death which cannot be manipulated? Is it more of a comfort knowing your relatives are living but choose not to engage you?