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How do you find a healthy balance?

Asked by shrubbery (9835 points ) October 25th, 2008

Between say for example:

Eating too much and not enough?
Too much exercise and not enough?
Outgoing to the point of obnoxiousness and shy to the point of a loner?
Talking too much and not enough?
Sharing things with your partner and keeping things to yourself?
Going with the flow/ moving on and allowing yourself to be upset/hurt?
Time with friends and time with family?
Time studying and free time?
Time for yourself and time for others?

Is there some kind of formula that could help you work these things out?
Is it just that life is hard and you have to decide for yourself?
If you manage it, how? How do you do it?
If you don’t manage to balance things, do you want to? Does it make you upset when you can’t?
What do you do about it?

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17 Answers

gailcalled's avatar

Life is a constant work-in-progress. If you stick to the scale metaphor, each of the balance pans tilts up and down from the horizontal. One just does one’s best to keep them even.

jessturtle23's avatar

experience.

MacBean's avatar

Trial and error.

jenlk1207's avatar

it’s all about progress, not perfection. You can only do your best. As my tattoo says “breathe through balance”. Life is the constant sea of change, and you just roll with it.

augustlan's avatar

I don’t often find it at all. I tend to do it all the way, or not at all. Not at all being the more frequent outcome, sadly.

gimmedat's avatar

What makes me feel right, not what others want or expect of me.

deaddolly's avatar

what i want to do and what i know i shouldn’t do.

loser's avatar

I’m a Libra so it’s what I aim for but I know it’s terrifically difficult to acheive!

Zuma's avatar

Binge, repent, repeat.

Trustinglife's avatar

@Shrubbery, why is balance important to you? It’s not to me, so I don’t really think about it.

By the way, you win the prize for the most questions within a question that I’ve ever seen!

wundayatta's avatar

I don’t.

But seriously, it helps to kind of prioritize things in your life: family, work, creative outlets, fun, etc. Then try to move towards that balance. And don’t beat yourself up later on for the choices you made. You made them. You’re in a new place, now.

JellyB's avatar

Well, i would think if what you’re doing bothers you, then it is not balanced for you….i think. So i suppose it would be trial and error, until you find that you are content.
I’m no expert here since my work/play (free time) balance is way out! (too little of the latter of course.. sniff)

lady4life's avatar

When you figure it out, please let me know..I am faced with the same problem.

Fernspider's avatar

Life balance is one of those difficult life mysteries. For me it’s about prioritising. There are only so many hours in a day and you only have so much energy…. plus, your own happiness/well being is also important.

Recently, I found that my home life, space and personal time were being comprimised due to work obligations, social events and other responsibilities. I weighed up where I could shave some of my current time consuming life complications and ended up realising that I could financially afford to reduce my hours at work to enable me more time for home.

This has worked out brilliantly and definitely feel more balanced with time. Chores get done and I feel far less stressed. If for some people, they have a lot of time but not as much money as they would like, then potentially working more would assist.

marionef's avatar

The other thing is what might be too much for one might not be enough for another. So balance is subjective

philosopher's avatar

I am the Mother of a mid functioning Autistic young Man. Some Autistic people never learn to speak. I know my Son was not given all the help he should have been. He was in New York Child Learning Institute for Years . These immoral Psychologist help the wealthiest families most. He has been in a great school for eight Years . I have done my best despite that I live in NYC were incompetent Teachers get paid to abuse Autistic people.
I will never give up . I appreciate all that I have . I am angered when others do not.

fathippo's avatar

It seems I can only ever manage one extreme or the other, which is frustrating. >=| I can go round in the same circles for years and I just don’t know how to fix that…

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