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What are signs that he's into me?

Asked by megs (147 points ) February 26th, 2009

What are some signs i would be getting if someone was into me? I mean i know some but maybe there’s a few i don’t know that i can look for. Maybe more of a question for a guy to answer seeing as their the ones that give signs if they are into you right?

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DrasticDreamer's avatar

Are you into him? If so, just ask him. Or let him know that you’re interested in him. No point in wondering when you don’t actually have to. :)

megs's avatar

They only problem is that I am a little bit shy and I just don’t exactly know what I would say to him.:S

chelseababyy's avatar

Everything you said before, totally means he’s into you. If he’s actually making time to call you just to talk. That’s good thing.
Just say something like, “You know what? I’m pretty into you, what do you think about that?”

megs's avatar

Yeah something a long that line I just don’t want to make a fool out of myself.

PublicBlog's avatar

Wasn’t this question asked earlier today?...
If you two are mutual friends and consistently socializing with one another, GIVE him a sign that you are interested.

From what I read in the last question—- “accidently” grab his hand.

chelseababyy's avatar

Yeah. Accidently grabbing his hand is a definite yes on something to do. It’s subtle yet, sweet and a totally perfect gesture if you’re into him.

onesecondregrets's avatar

Please watch and/or read the book/movie He’s Just Not That Into You. It will do wonders for you and leave no doubt in your mind.

If a guy wants to see you, or be with you he will do whatever it takes to be with or see you. If he doesn’t. If you have to think of and/or make even ONE excuse in your mind for his actions- he is not that into you. End of story.

megs's avatar

From what I can see I think that he might be

AstroChuck's avatar

Well, if you can’t feel if he’s into you, I’d look for someone a little more hung.

megs's avatar

You want to know something really weird that pretty much made my day yesterday, it was kind of creepy..

chelseababyy's avatar

Tellllllllllllllll meeeeeeeeeee.

megs's avatar

I got this chain letter email type thing and well i was pretty bored and usually i just delete my messages but I had nothing else to do anyways it was like saying what a girl wants and stuff and at the bottom it said send this to 15 people and your true love will call you within 5 minutes so i sent it to people and seriously 3 minutes later he called me

chelseababyy's avatar

Hahaha, I love coincidences like that.

megs's avatar

I don’t know why but it just made my day, it just made me think like could that mean something is there a real reason why he called me at that time..

megs's avatar

I really want to take control and make a little move like what you guys said like gently grabbing his hand or like a little kiss or something, i’m just not use to making the first move with a guy i don’t know why but i can with a girl:S

chelseababyy's avatar

@megs maybe you’re just not used to it, or maybe guys intimidate you a little more.

by the way, love your avatar, I’m a huge lily fan :]

megs's avatar

So do you think I should talk to him tomorrow night when we’re walking home? Well that’s if we don’t get a ride, I need a new car so I can drive lol, and what like exactly should I say and do?:)
And thanks:D same here i’d really love to meet her, she’s also so beautiful

chelseababyy's avatar

You should definitely talk to him for sure. Just tell him you’re into him, and ask him if he’s into you. Grab his hand, see how he reacts.

She definitely is beautiful <3

PublicBlog's avatar

This isn’t a chat room, instant messenger etc
*no offence.

megs's avatar

I definatly will try talking to him:D

She’s helping me!

chelseababyy's avatar

@PublicBlog Even when you say no offence, offence will still be taken, esp because you said something like “This isn’t a chat room.” You’re right, it’s not, it’s Fluther. And we’re fully aware, thank you.

Anyway, if you like the guy, let him know.

megs's avatar

You know the what if game?
ex. ‘what if you won a million dollars?’
??

PublicBlog's avatar

FAQ’s; the question was asked in the beginning and answered multiple times, where did lily allen & the chain letter come from? ...

Pardon, I plan to not continue this argument any further.

chelseababyy's avatar

@PublicBlog It was just a general statement. People ALWAYS get off track in threads.

megs's avatar

Kay I don’t know if you saw my last response but anyways we do that what if thing a lot what if I was just like ‘what if I told you i had feeling for you?’
would that be really stupid?

chelseababyy's avatar

No, that wouldn’t be stupid. That would be a good start. Before the boyfriend and I got together we would play question games like that a lot. It’s an easy way to break the ice.

megs's avatar

Maybe I’ll try that,
if all goes good I’ll probably make a move. :D

chelseababyy's avatar

Good idea!

megs's avatar

Thanks darling!:D

chelseababyy's avatar

Quite welcome!

tb1570's avatar

I realize I may be a little late, but let me just add my three cents. As a guy, I can tell you this:

If he really looks at you when you’re talking to each other and really seems to be paying attention to what you’re saying, he’s into you.

If he asks your opinion about things, especially about things related to his life, he’s into you.

If he smiles and laughs a lot (or at least more than he usually does) when you’re together, he’s into you.

If he touches you, or you catch him staring at your lips when you’re talking to him, he’s into you.

And If he asks what your dreams are or what your plans for the future are, he’s really into you and is thinking about the possibility of you two long-term.

megs's avatar

Really?
He does like all of that.

btko's avatar

Sage advice tb1570.

tb1570's avatar

Then you’re golden. If you still think he’s a little shy and you want to make the first move, I would suggest something very simple like just holding his hand. This very simple act means alot when you really care about someone. If you want to be extra sure he understands your meaning, you could take his hand into both of yours, stand in front of him, look up directly into his eyes and just give him your warmest smile. If he smiles back then you’re in good shape. You could even then continue by then continuing to hold his hand w/ your left hand and with your right hand, touch his forearm, then move your hand up to his shoulder, and finally, touch his face. If you want, you could add some simple words along the lines of ”(insert his name), I think you are an amazing man.” After this, there should be no doubt about how either of you feel about each other. If you look him directly in the eyes during all this, you’ll know everything you need to know just by watching him, even if he doesn’t say a word in return.

If that seems a little much, just try the hand-holding thing, and give his hand a little squeeze. If he returns the sqeeze, it’s a very good sign.

If this all goes well, then a pleasant, soft kiss may be in order later.

Good luck. I’m happy for you both!

megs's avatar

Hey thanks:) You give good advice:D

tb1570's avatar

No prob. I’m a softy/romantic at heart, so it gives me a good feeling to see other people in love, and if I can lend a hand in helping two people who really like each other get together, I’m always happy to do it! : )

Keep me posted and let me know how it goes!

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