Are you too nice, or too mean?

I’m generally too nice.

Tonight at work, I saw the guy who fired me exactly a year ago right before my Addison’s diagnosis when I was very ill. After my diagnosis and hospital stay, I called to ask for my job back and even offered a letter from my doctor explaining my condition and how it affected my job performance. He still wouldn’t hire me back. This was about the time the economy/job market completely crashed. As a result, I was out of work for over 6 months, lost my apartment, had to move back in with my parents, am in some serious debt, and am back at square one trying to get back on my feet.

Anyway, I saw him tonight and I said hello and politely answered his questions about what I’m “up to these days.” On the inside, I wanted to tell him thanks for being an insensitive jackass and that I hope he felt good about his decision to not hire me back after my health improved. But of course, I didn’t say that… because I’m too nice.

So, do you hold back to be polite, or let your anger hang out?