If my partner is carrying the child, would you see me as the mom too?

My partner and I have been trying for months to have a child and finally we think she might be pregnant… It was a discussion we’ve had for the past year as to who would be the first to carry the child and we decided that for now she was the best candidate. We’ve been so excited during this journey and I never questioned whether I would bea Mother even though genetically I wasnt contributing… until yesterday.

I was having lunch with my best friend at work… & he was asking how things were going…did we know anything yet? & I explained that Jess (my partner) has been experiencing some pregnancy symptoms and that she’s late with her period but we’re going to wait until next week to confirm whether she’s pregnant or not… I told him i was soooo excited to be a mom and this is something i’ve waited my whole life for… & he tells me… you’re not going to be a mom… Jess will be the mom… you’re just the Financier… Whoa! So I think in that moment it hit me… Is that really how most people will see it? When Jess has our child… will people not see me as the co-parent/Mom or am i reading too much into his HIGHLY insensitive comment.

I look forward to everyones opinions/insights…