Is it okay if I choose a path that some may not agree with?

Asked by ItalianPrincess1217 (11979) December 29th, 2009 from iPhone

So here’s the story…I was in a car crash a few months ago and because my vehicle was ruined beyond repair (and insurance wouldn’t cover it) I had to quit my job. I was okay with that because my job was horrible. I was miserable there.

I’m engaged to be married in July. My fiancé makes plenty enough to support us both and the money I was bringing in was just extra “rainy day” money. It’s going on 6 months now and we’re still doing fine money wise. We bought our first house a couple months ago, own a decent car, have little debt, etc.

Right now I use my spare time to plan our wedding, clean the house, do laundry, feed and walk the dogs, etc. Once we get married we do plan on having kids. My fiancé and I both agree that we want me to stay home with the kids instead of sending them off to a daycare. I’m at peace with the fact that I currently have no job. So is my fiancé. But from time to time I get the occasional comment from some family members in reference to my lack of employment. A lot of times I take these comments to heart. I get offended. When people say things like “Are you even looking for a job?” it makes me feel like I’m some kind of gold digging mooch who lives off their man’s money. And that’s not the case at all. I don’t want to feel as if I’m not living up to everyone’s standards. I just see no point in trying to find a serious career for myself when our future doesn’t include me having a full time career. My focus is on having a family. It always has been. Is this wrong of me to think this way? What are your thoughts? Is being a stay at home mom too old fashioned? Are modern day women expected to pull their own weight these days?