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Would you begin a relationship with a man who was almost totally destitute?

Asked by Akua (4730points) October 19th, 2010

My friend met a guy who is really sweet to her and compared to the abusive relationships she has been in he is just SO great to her. He calls to check on her well-being and he is gentle and protective of her. She has met his friends and he always wants to make her happy, if she even looks unhappy he gets very concerned. Well the problem is this: he only works part-time, and most of his money goes towards bills and child support. He literally has nothing. She told me that he said that on payday, after bills he had $24 left to get thru the week. He always says he feels bad that he can’t give or buy her anything. He does have a good job though but since it’s only p/t he doesn’t see much money after taxes and bills and he is waiting for them to make him full time (hopefully in Jan.). What do you think? This man is 40 and basically starting over. He has nothing, literally. She describes his tiny bare studio apt. and says he doesn’t even have money to keep food in his fridge. I feel bad but should she stick it out with him knowing that this could be a drain on her meager finances or should she consider finding someone with a lot more to offer her?

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