Calm and peace or mind-blowing sex, which is a bigger draw for you?

If you had the choice to be in a relationship were you were going to get one or the other, out of lots of great mind blowing sex but outside the bedroom you would have no comfort, no peace of mind. You had to go about your day wondering if you are being snooped on by your spouse, fending off arguments, not being trusted, etc., or a relationship where you were respected, treated with consideration and kindness, you were calm and comfortable but the sex was lukewarm and not frequent. Which would weight more for you, calmness and peace or mind-blowing sex and walking around on pins and needles?