When you have to go to several places to "have Christmas" is there only one place that really seems to count?

I’m not sure how to phrase this. Growing up we had no extended family whatsoever, so our house was the only place for Christmas, and Christmas dinner. It was totally Leave It To Beaver. Get up on Christmas day all excited, make a huge mess, eat breakfast then wait for the turkey! But now….my kids have their own homes, and each of their kids have their fathers and….it’s just pulled 16 different ways. My daughter said, “I’m having Christmas on Christmas Eve (which is a Friday) because the kid’s dads have them on Christmas…..You’re going to Pittsburgh so how about we come over and Do Christmas with you on Thursday!”
I don’t know why but…it just isn’t sitting right with me. I told my daughter I just wanted to send the presents home with her for the kids to open first thing in the morning with her….what does it mean to have to go house to house to house simply to receive presents? And is there only one house that really counts…the one that serves Christmas dinner?