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Getting remarried. Would you tell kids before or after you proposed?
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January 1st, 2011
How much of what kids think would affect how you feel about your partner? If the kids ended up lukewarm to the idea, would that take the shine off your partner for you?
I ask because my partner didn’t tell his kids he was going to propose to me. I thought they knew since his parents and my family knew. A rush of panic hit me that if the kids freaked out on him then he would be sorry he proposed and would start to resent me.
In my eyes I’m marrying the man but sharing his life which includes several kids so it’s important to me they are on board with our own wants. My SO thinks whatever the kids think, great or meh, they aren’t the ones getting married and so I shouldn’t be so nervous.
He and I are both children of divorce. Am I the only one ever to panic like this?
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