I don't want to live with my brother and don't know how to tell him?

Asked by ducky_dnl (5384) January 12th, 2011 from iPhone

I’ve been asking a lot of questions this week. Anyway, my brother is coming home from Afghanistan in two weeks and he’s getting a condo close to the university I go to and the university he’s about to attend. He wants me to live with him and have another room-mate. I love my brother, but I don’t want to live with him. He’s so excited about it, but I’m just really sad. Of course knowing me, I’ll end up living with him. I’d prefer to live with my mom still, but he insists on me living with him and says it’ll be “fun.” My brother and I aren’t on very good terms. I’m barely on good terms with any of my family members, so it’s nothing personal. I just feel uncomfortable around him, but I was never taught to really say no to someone. I’m worried about hurting peoples feelings. When someone sounds sad because I said no or I don’t want to, I feel like the biggest jerk alive. What should I do? I know I don’t really have it in me to say no, so if your comments are going to be “just tell him” I probably most likely won’t listen. I feel bad.