Am I being a pushover?

I always wonder if I’m the only person who goes through the types of things I go through. Obviously I know that’s not true, but I would like to hear it from people who have experienced these things, because the people who are in my life in “real life” never seem to go through this kind of thing, or at least I never hear about it.

My boyfriend and I have an amazing connection. We just vibe well together. But when people look at our relationship from the “outside” they don’t understand it. His friends are rather immature and basically think he’s an idiot for being with me. My friends have given up on me when it comes to guys because I never listen to them (and I’ve started to believe that nobody should ever listen to anyone about relationships unless they are one of the two people IN the relationship or if there is abuse going on). He doesn’t actually listen to his friends, thankfully, but it does affect our time together in the sense that we make it a point to spend time together without his friends because in the past, when we have spent time together with his friends, they always try to start some kind of drama and make us uncomfortable.

In the beginning of our relationship, this was extremely hard for me. I was always pressing to be with him when he was with his friends. Eventually because of the tension, I just decided on my own terms to not surround myself with them and just enjoy my time with him as it came. So instead of seeing him, say, 4x a week, I see him 1–2x a week instead.

To me, I don’t feel like this is me letting him walk all over me. I just find that it leads to a healthier relationship for the two of us. But when I explain this to my “friends”, they are like, “why do you let them/him get away with that? If I were you, I would tell him to suck it up and bring you around so his friends would shut the f*ck up.” My perspective is that it’s not worth the fight and trouble to potentially screw up our relationship over something like this. Am I being a pushover?

I’d like to think I’m just handling the situation like a mature adult. I’m not above speaking up and having my opinions and putting my foot down and whatnot, but I do feel that there are times in any of our relationships that if we try too much to “stand up” for what we think is “right” it ends up not being worth it. I know that sounds confusing…but I guess what I mean is, we can’t always get exactly what we want, and sometimes I think people end up getting divorced or breaking up because of things like this when really, instead of asking the other person to change, we could be the ones to make changes/minor sacrifices for a greater overall happiness.