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Does it sound like my ex wants me back or regrets things?

Asked by chelle21689 (7907points) April 4th, 2011

I went out with my ex for 5½ years and we broke up 10 weeks ago. I immediately went NC and explained I needed space until I felt ready to talk to him. I unfriended him from Facebook and everyone that associated with him.

It was hard but I surprisingly healed rapidly. I am seeing someone new that is wonderful, I am doing brand new things in life like sky diving and snowboarding, I’m traveling, I look better, etc.

Funny, I thought about contacting my ex yesterday but wasn’t sure. I didn’t want to ruin what I had with the current guy. Then my ex texted about wanting to talk outta no where. We caught up with each other making small talk but I could tell he was holding back his feelings. He told me he didn’t want to break up with me and that he did that because he felt like he was doing me wrong by having me stay with him when he couldn’t give me the relationship I wanted while he was being stressed out in the Army and didn’t know how to deal.

Since the break up, his life seemed to have gotten even more hectic and I feel really bad. I thought he was doing great. Anyways, he said he didn’t know if he made the right decision to break up with me because I was the only steady thing in his life. He didn’t want to admit missing me until now and he feels embarrassed and selfish for contacting me when I seem to be very happy with my own life. He started to cry and told me how much it hurt seeing me with someone else and it hurt worse than he thought. Some how he got around to be able to look at my pictures. Also he told me all the girls he talked to he felt like they were stupid. Don’t know why he told me that.

What do you think he was feeling? I feel like he regrets it and wants me back but knows he can’t because his life is stressful and I’m a lot happier. Honestly I’m kinda glad that his problems aren’t mine anymore. I love my ex, I care a lot about him, but I feel like even if he did ask me back I DON’T WANT TO be with him because his life is messy and I’m so much happier. Who knows what the future holds though…

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