Have you been hurt by a purely hypothetical question? Why?

Have you ever been hurt when someone you cared about raised the possibility of an action (that would probably never happen). For example, if your fiance told you that she might want to move to Equador to work with some NGO, and you have kids and can’t go.

Did you catastrophize? Did you react as if it was a done deal? If so, where did that come from? Why did the hypothetical future choice make you so upset?