Is it selfish to NOT consider loved ones in your life decisions?

I am well aware that everyone has the right to, and the agency, to making their own decisions about life. Everyone should make their own decisions. However, some choices we make, not everyone agrees with, least of all loved ones. People might say, “It’s my life and my choices, and I don’t care what others think of them.” What about your loved ones? Are they not affected by your life decisions in some way or another, because they love you? I can see someone saying, No they are not, but we can’t tell our loved ones to not care about us anymore? More over, sometimes they are directly affected by our decisions. Is it selfish to not at least consider them in your choices? To consider how they may feel about it, and for some decisions, how this may or may not affect them in the long run?