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Do you have advice for a couple moving in together?

Asked by tedd (14078points) September 7th, 2011

My g/f and I have been dating for around 9 months now. Both of our leases are up this November, and we’re looking at moving in together. We already spend most nights at each others apartments and are blowing a lot of gas money in the process, so it seemed like a logical step as well as a step in the relationship. Since neither of us have ever moved in with a SO before, she suggested we each come up with a list of things we think may come up as issues while living together. Things like chore duties, bills, our pets getting along, etc.

What advice would you have for a couple moving in together? Back ground: We’re both college graduates with full time jobs (I work a bit over 60 hours a week and she will be doing regular 40ish hours until the spring when her job gets busier for the summer). I have a dog and a cat, she has a cat (we both love animals and all of our pets). We’re both fairly laid back, me admittedly moreso. I make significantly more money, but also have significantly more bills. We’re looking at apartments basically smack dab in the middle of our jobs. As far as the relationship, I would be lying if I said I don’t have some commitment issues that are “holding up” the relationship to some extent (my last g/f left me pretty damaged). But I really like her (and am probably falling in love with her), and I thoroughly enjoy spending time with her. I guess from my prospective despite my issues moving in together isn’t as big a step as getting engaged or something (still easily, or at least more easily, reversible if things go wrong). I know she is really into me as well, but she would be the person to ask about her overall feelings.

But anyways, what advice do you have?

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